A Funeral is a celebration of a life that has been lived, as well as a sociological statement that a death has occurred. This provides a confirmation of reality in the grief process and allows for a climate of mourning. Also, it gives an opportunity for there to be an acknowledgement of your relationship with the individual. Planning a personalized ceremony, helps to begin the healing process. This is also needed by others in their grief process, as they wish to express their own condolences and provide community support by paying their respects.
The first step is to select a funeral home. Notify them of where the death has taken place at. They will arrange for your loved one to be transferred into their care. To contact Martin Brothers Funeral Chapel, please call 403-328-2361 if you have not already done so. We will set up an arrangement time that works best for your family.
To prepare for arrangements, we will be asking you the following:
Obituary: We can submit newspaper obituaries upon your family’s request.
Disposition: Please consider if you would like to proceed with cremation or burial.
Viewing: Discuss if you would like to do a viewing. Select clothing that you would like for them to be dressed in. Also, we require permission to proceed with embalming, if applicable.
Service: Discuss the location, preferable date and time of service, clergy / officiant (if there is not a preferred member of clergy, we do have individuals within our funeral home who are able to officiate services and adjust the service to your preferences), eulogy speaker, any other forms of personalized tribute (musical, scripture reading, poems, personal memories, open mike), hymn / music selections (average three song selections), slideshow / photo tribute (can be completed by our facility), memorabilia, pallbearers, cemetery location, reception location, preferred caterer, and menu preferences.
Viewing can be an asset in the grieving process, as it provides a sense of reality that the death has happened. A cause of death usually approaches in two fashions, either a long-drawn battle with failing health or a sudden passing. In both scenarios, a viewing can provide that opportunity to give family serenity. When the deceased had suffered through an illness or physical changes, we try to restore a healthier, more peaceful appearance of that individual. When the passing is unexpected, a viewing is an opportunity for family and friends to say goodbye and express their emotions in their loved one’s presence. In both cases, it provides a sense of comfort for many. Viewing is also encouraged for children, if the process is explained and voluntary.
The purpose of embalming is to sanitize and preserve the body, as well as enhance the appearance of the deceased. This provides the opportunity to extend the time between the time of passing until the final disposition.
Embalming is not usually legally required if burial or cremation takes place within 72 hours of the death, but each funeral home has their own policies concerning embalming for the safety of their staff and the public.
In certain cases, where a communicable disease is present, embalming is not permitted by law and the body is placed in a sealed metal-lined container instead.
If the body is transported across a provincial boundary, embalming is required by law.
Traditionsare still important when it comes to funerals, whether they are religious orsimply family based. That being said, new traditions are being created all thetime, and celebrating the life of a loved one can take on many forms. Areception at the funeral home, time set aside for tributes and a loved one’sfavorite music, gathering at a favorite park, restaurant, or other setting, areall personal and appropriate ways to remember a loved one. Your funeraldirector is an excellent resource who will take care of all the details,allowing you to focus on the moment and truly celebrate the life of your lovedone.
Whenyour loved is under a physician’s care and a home death is expected, you mayimmediately contact Martin Brothers and we will bring your loved one into ourcare. When a death is unexpected andhappens in the home, please call your local emergency services (911) and theywill notify the Medical Examiner’s office; who may wish to investigate thecause of death. Please also contact Martin Brothers and we will begin to assistyou.
Traditionally,the pallbearers for a funeral were mainly the close friends and associates ofthe deceased. It is an honor for family members or friends to carry a loved oneto their final resting place. However, when immediate family are deciding to bea pallbearer, some things to consider are; will someone from the family beavailable to assist the spouse of the deceased at the graveside, and are thepeople being considered physically able to carry the casket? The role of anhonorary pallbearer is also important, and those not able to be an active pallbearercan certainly be considered for this honor.
Funeralcosts depend on many factors including the selection of a casket or cremationurn, related merchandise, and services. The average cost of a funeral is currentlyin the $10,000 range, and the bill from the funeral home is broken down intothree parts; service fees, merchandise, and disbursements. Although it iscommon to consider cremation to be less expensive, there are economical burialoptions available.
Bringinga loved one back to their home town can be a complicated and expensive process.In this unfortunate circumstance, we can definitely help. No matter where youare, we are on call 24 hours a day and can be reached anytime. We can lookafter bringing your loved one into our care whether it be by ground or air. Inorder to avoid the expense and worry of this process, we have travel plans thatcan be purchased prior to death that cover travel anywhere in the world ifdeath occurs 100 kilometers or more away from a person’s legal primaryresidence. Once the travel plan is in place, one toll-free phone call is all ittakes to begin the process of bringing your loved one home.
Columbarium niches are available with the Public Cemetery with the Town of Vermilion. The niches available can store two urns and include engraving of the names on the niche front.
Cremated remains can be released to the family as well. As such, they can proceed in storage of the urn or have the option to scatter. Scattering of cremated remains is usually permitted on Crown and publicly owned lands but permission must be obtained ahead of time in all cases. In national parks, scattering cremated remains in water is prohibited, but remains can be “cast to the wind”. In provincial parks, forests and wilderness areas scattering is allowed anywhere, but permission is required to scatter remains over lakes and rivers.
Some cemeteries have special areas where cremated remains can be scattered and individual plaques may be placed there.
There are several important issues to consider before scattering, as scattering of cremated remains is permanent and cannot be reversed.
• There is no permanent place to identify with the deceased and if done on private property, it may be sold in future years.
• There may be restrictions at parks, lakes, and such places and they may not be accessible in the future. There is also no guarantee that the location will be in the same condition in the future.
• There is likely not a way to place a marker to identify the scattering location for future generations.
Keepsake urns and memorial jewellery are a common practice of providing multiple individuals with their own amount of cremated remains. There are some unique methods of personalizing your memorialization as well. These possibilities include: creating a memorial tree, placing into fireworks, placing in helium balloons, creating coral reef, creating a diamond, hand blown glass and glass paperweights.
Friendsand family may not be given the appropriate channels of closure to properlycomplete their personal grieving process, leaving unanswered questions andconcerns. Even something as simple as a small gathering of close family andfriends would allow them the opportunity to express their grief and reminiscetogether over a life well lived. The finality of a funeral allows those leftbehind to find a sense of closure.
Itis important to know that Power of Attorney ends at death, and the personimmediately in charge of funeral decisions is the personal representativedesignated in the will (executor). If there is no Will, there is an order ofresponsible persons that must be followed, starting with the spouse orinterdependent partner at the time of death, followed by an adult child of thedeceased, a parent of the deceased. If none of these exist, there is a furtherlist of responsibility.
Yes. Having a will can protect your family from future legal uncertainty, andgives you the control to distribute your estate accordingly. Even if a personfeels that they cannot afford a lawyer, a simple online will is better thannothing. A person can hand write andsign their own version of a will, so long as it is witnessed by two persons whoare not family members or beneficiaries of the estate. This leaves something intheir hand writing that gives direction to their family regarding the estate.That being said, a legal will is always the very best option.
Aftera person dies, their estate often goes through Probate, the process in which anexecutor consolidates the decedent’s assets and uses them to pay debts, taxes,and probate expenses. Survivors then receive remaining assets according to theterms of the will.
The mostimportant thing to remember when following in a funeral procession is to stay aclose, but safe distance to the car in front of you to maintain the continuityof the procession. If you come upon a funeral procession that is proceedingthrough a red light, please stop and allow them to continue so that you do notdisrupt the flow. Pedestrians should also wait until the procession has passedbefore stepping out into the crosswalk.
Itis not necessary to belong to a church to have a funeral. Martin BrothersRiverview Chapel is large enough to accommodate up to 400 people for largefunerals, and we have smaller facilities to hold services for 20 to 30 people.There are other options as well, so consider what best reflects the personalityand taste of your loved one and your family. Hotel ballrooms, community halls,parks, and back yards are just some of the options for funeral gatherings.Martin Brothers also has a Certified Funeral Celebrant on staff and hasconnections with many clergy members who may be suitable to officiate at afuneral service either at our chapel, or elsewhere.
Afuneral is simply defined as “aceremony for celebrating, sanctifying, or remembering the life of a person whohas died.” A life livedis a life worth remembering. Funerals have become as unique as the person they are meant to memorialize. Memoralization of a loved one is important to both those who belong to afaith community and those who do not. We have a funeral not because someone hasdied, but because they have lived. Grief is a completely individual experienceand, as such, plan a funeral to value that. Perhaps that means a backyard BBQor a time of fellowship in your local parish; however you define a funeral ensure that it means the mostto you.